So I live in a country town; a relatively small place. Being the paranoid
recluse that I am, I am nocturnal, spend all my waking time in front of a
computer, and normally only go outside once a day in order to buy food from the
local supermarket.
I am six foot four inches tall, and there's this local kid who for some reason
is obsessed with my height. I have seen him probably half a dozen times now,
when I have gone out to buy food. For some reason whenever I see him, he
either refers to me as Bigfoot, or repeatedly asks me how tall I am, even
though I'm pretty sure I've told him at least once. Recently he's also started
commenting on how he thinks I'd be really good at fighting, in response to
which I've become really nervous.
When I went outside the front gate earlier this evening, I saw him on the other
side of the road. His first words were, "hey, it's Bigfoot!" and then he told
me that he thought I could bash him. I asked him why would I want to do that.
I then told him that I wanted to be able to step outside of my front gate
without immediately hearing his voice, and then told him twice to leave me
alone. He had someone else with him, and that person told me to have a good
Christmas, while the kid in question said, "See you later, darling," as if to
imply what a wimp he obviously thought I was.
The reason why I am now ashamed of this, is because when the kid first yelled
out "hey, it's Bigfoot!" in hindsight he sounded as though he was actually
happy to see me, and I remember that there was once I fell over on the road,
and he and I think his father were there and asked me if I was all right, and
stayed with me until I got up. So now I feel bad for telling him to leave me
alone, but I have been attacked before and am extremely distrustful of anyone,
(especially people who call me names and repeatedly ask me the same questions
after I've already told them the answer) and I feel very uncomfortable whenever
I encounter him, because I don't know what he wants from me or how to really
respond to him.
The reason why I am thinking that I have been oversensitive, is because again,
he has never actually done anything to me physically; but I don't like the
repeated questioning, being called Bigfoot, or his mention of me supposedly
having aptitude for violence.
I'm now nervous about going outside even to the small extent that I regularly
do, because I'm worried about what is potentially going to happen the next time
I see him. He is only a teenage boy and is much smaller than I am, but for
some reason it still bothers me.
I know I am probably overreacting and being stupid, but I also know how I feel
about this. I'm not entirely sure what to do.
ok pets r us
i'm answering you here because here is where you posted it..
first off, i know this doesn't help but i have always wished i was taller..
at 5' 4 1/2' ..i lie and say 5'5'' cause i don't think anyone will challenge that little difference.. so while it is not the same as you, i do understand the complexity of height
do i think you are being too sensitive..yep...but i do understand why
maybe you should answer him with a question when he asks
like..why do you want to know?..or how tall do you think?.. why do you have a thing about height?
or maybe an honest comment like
you know you asking me that all the time makes me very nervous and afraid you are going to attack ME
you might be surprised -pleasantly
perhaps this is where your phone purchase can make you feel better..
carry it with you
if he really really bothers you - pullout that phone and say.. hey harassment is against the law and i have you on film now..
but truthfully i think you have already gotten the answer..the kid might just want to be your friend and is too young to understand why you react as you do.. he probably wishes he was 6'4"
next time the kid yells hey it's bigfoot.. maybe you can yell back.. it's only a size 13 ..doesn't qualify for a bigfoot...what size are you?
i have always found that asking a question deflects - so does humor
showing fear only gets you a target on your back..
here's your chance at the change you are wanting..turn this little rascal into your friend
good luck and hugs
;D
Thank you, Otter. I will see what happens. I think part of the problem is going out as late in the day as I normally do; but the entire reason why I do that, is specifically in order to avoid people.
Maybe you're avoiding the wrong people by going out at the time you do.
As someone that always tried to avoid having people around me (I'm changing in that, now I don't mind having people around me that much), the first thing I do is to know my environment, to know where and when people tend to get together and what kind of people they are.
Also, as someone that was the target of some jokes because of being too fat, I always tried to take things in a humorous way.
As to your teenage "friend", I would probably ask him why he keeps asking that, so I could be sure of his intentions, as I hate misunderstandings. But, as I am in a process of changing the way I act towards other people (and myself), that's something that I wouldn't be able to ask a couple of years ago.
Anyway, good luck. :)
QuoteI am in a process of changing
well this seems to be the theme for almost everyone i have come across lately..
some have had accidents or medical issues and haven't had a choice ( well not that we know about anyhow)
me, personally..i have been trying to tie it to age but i think there is much more to it although age is probably a big part
on the woo woo end of this i think we are sensing our nearness to that portal (?) Z wants to find and feeling some urgency or anticipation in changing ourselves..but still being locked into 3D we are making the attempt in a 3D way - without all the info
now that sounds crazy enough that i think i have made my point. :-\
Quote from: space otter on December 23, 2018, 03:52:02 PM
well this seems to be the theme for almost everyone i have come across lately..
In my case it's a consequence of something that happened to me a few months ago.
At a first sight and for anyone else it would look like nothing special, but to me it was a very special occasion. :)